Tony Hoagland’s collection, appropriately titled “What Narcissism Means to Me,” is all about the self, the writer’s own judgements of others, his internal monologues, the things he thinks but would never say aloud to anyone. It is such a fun and honest read that manages to not only show the author’s frank tendencies toward self love and elevation about those around him but also his insecurities and short-comings. Here is a passage from “Argentina” in which Hoagland demonstrates his tendency towards self-loathing:
How did I come to believe in a government called Tony Hoagland?
with an economy based on flattery and self protection?
and a sewage system of selective forgetting?
and an extensive history of broken promises?
Hoagland also uses a repeating cast of characters within his poems who are revolving friends and lovers of his. Though he occasionally writes poems commenting on the faults and oddities of these people, he also seems to care intensely about them and finds most of his self-inspiration from them turning it inward and asking questions about his own life like in “Migration”:
This year Marie drives back and forth
from the hospital room of her dying friend
to the office of the adoption agency.
I bet sometimes she doesn’t know
what threshold she is waiting at–
the hand of her seick friend, hot with fever;
the theorectical baby just a lot of paperwork so far.
But next year she might be standing by a grave,
wearing black with a splash of banana vomit on it,
the little girl just starting to say Sesame Street
and Cappuccino latte grande Mommy.
The future ours for a while to hold, with its heaviness–
and hope moving from one location to another
lik the holy ghost that it is.
Hoagland also slips into this collection his meditations on life. The more you read these poems the more you begin to notice that they are not so much about narcissism at all, but about Hoagland’s desire to understand the immeasureable pain and weighted sadness he feels in his own life. Perhaps the greatest example of this comes from my favorite poem of the bunch. In a passage from “Man Carrying Sofa” Hoagland describes his feelings towards life; how superficial and menial things can seem externally and how deeply complex emotion and pain can be internally, yet also how hope fits into it all as is echoed by the previous excerpt.
What a great journey this is,
this ordinary life of ants and sandwich wrappers,
of X-rated sunsets and drive-through funerals.
And this particular complex pain inside your chest;
this damaged longing
like a heavy piece of furniture inside you;
you carry it, it burdens you, it drags you down–
then you stop, and rest on top of it.